Thursday, November 17, 2011

Digging through the trash for a retainer in an Oregon monsoon


It’s been said that friends make the good times better, the bad times more bearable, and in my humble opinion, the weird times funnier.  My best friend (and roommate) has proven this point to me over and over again.  As I was getting ready for bed last night a sinking feeling overwhelmed me as I realized I had taken out my retainer, put it in a paper towel, and then placed it on the kitchen counter.  (Why I thought it was a good idea to remove my retainer in the kitchen is a mystery to me.  I probably wasn’t thinking clearly at 6 in the morning.)  I vaguely remembered clearing off the kitchen counter sometime in the afternoon, and most likely that clearing included the paper-towel-wrapped piece of plastic tooth preservation.

After about 4 minutes of panicking, my better half and best friend calmly told me that we were going to get on our shoes, put on coats, go out to the trash bin sitting on the side of the street, and dig through to find my retainer (which was recently replaced from being thrown away and lost last year).  We walked outside into the typical Oregon monsoon, opened the big green lid, and pulled out the most recent bag of household kitchen trash.  It was quite the scene, complete with Ziploc bags on our hands as “gloves.” 

We dug through the rotten turkey meat, the pesto covered noodles, the eggshells, the soggy paper towels, the glops of yogurt, and other such trashy items.  As disgusting as this all was, I couldn’t help but laugh at the ridiculousness. 

Just as I was losing hope, I found a wadded up paper towel slightly resembling the roof of my mouth.  Retainer obtained.                         

As thrilled as I was to have my retainer back, I was highly disappointed in finding out via google that no, I could not dishwash, bleach, or boil my now more than slightly germy tooth preserver. 

But regardless, I fell asleep laughing.  And I couldn’t help but think that I most likely would have just left my retainer for the garbage man if I hadn’t had the encouragement of a good friend to choose the better route and dig through the trash.  Isn’t that really what friends do?  They help us dig through the trash.  Sometimes that comes in the form of being the one who’s there when the chips are down.  Sometimes that comes in the form of being the one to confront you when no one else will.  Or sometimes it just literally means digging through the trash to find a lost retainer.

I am reminded of this in Ecclesiastes, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; if one falls down, his friend can help pick him up.  But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up.”  (4:9-10)

I am thankful for those friends who help me up.  Or help me dig through the trash for a retainer in an Oregon monsoon.  

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Shut up and listen


I love being “teacher.”  As I complete my student teaching and look forward to someday having my very own class, I can’t help but grin.  I love how they make me laugh, I love how each student is unique, I love how no two days are the same, I love remembering back to my favorite year of 3rd grade and now doing my best to make this their favorite year, too.  I love teaching.

But to those of you who say teaching really isn’t a profession, is “easy,” or just a form of glorified babysitting, I beg to differ.  Trying to get that many kids to actually listen to you for 8 hours is hard!  After teaching a 30-minute lesson to a more than normally chatty class of 30, I used a last ditch effort to get my students to listen.  “Does anyone know what a pet peeve is?”  I asked.  There was no response from a befuddled group of 8-going-on-9-year-olds.  “A pet peeve is something that really bothers someone.  Do you know what my pet peeve is?” 

Still no response.

“My pet peeve is when students talk, sing, hum, or do other distracting things while I am trying to teach.  It makes it very hard for me to teach when I don’t think my students are paying attention.” 

The shocked looks on their faces kept them quiet.  At least for the next 90 seconds. 

As I drove home feeling defeated that my students had not paid attention to my mapping lesson (which I had spent time planning and thought would be an engaging lesson), I tried to get my mind off the matter by thinking about other things: “I wonder if I’ll ever get a teaching job with the economy the way it is… Where am I going to live after graduation in May… Why doesn’t God help me figure out my future… Does He just want me to be lonely, homeless, and unemployed for the rest of my life?”

This is how I spend a lot of my time- talking/singing/humming my own sad little story while I ignore what God has to say to me.  But God doesn’t smack my hand and inform me of his “pet peeve” of my own ignorance.  Rather, he waits.  He waits for me to be ready to listen.  He is patient and allows me to come to him.  He loves me despite the chatty, oblivious 3rd grader I still am. 

In my education classes, they always tell us to wait.  If students are not paying attention, wait.  It will be uncomfortable, it will seem like eternity, but it is worth the wait.  I do my best to wait for my students, but I am impatient. 

What if God was impatient?  What if he only waited for the 30 seconds I can barely wait for my students?  What if he just threw in the towel every time I ignored his call?  But he never tires of waiting for me to listen. 

I often think how much smoother my lessons would go if my students would just listen.  If they only knew how much time it would save if we could just get through one lesson uninterrupted!  I wonder if God ever thinks, “If only she knew how much smoother and easier things would be if she would listen instead of talking over me.”  Even if he does think these things, he remains patient and continues to wait. 

Maybe I should take my own advice I give to my students.  Maybe I just need to shut up and listen.